EMBRACING CONFLICT
As A Doorway Into Deeper Love
The Relationship School's Weekend Intensive
In Boulder Colorado! Sept 29 - Oct 1, 2017
It's Time To Discover The Number One Divorce & Break Up Prevention Skill
It's shocking to me how many break ups and blow outs could be avoided if people learned one thing...
...CONFLICT
The brain research is clear...
If you cannot, and do not, learn to regulate your emotions, shut down, or reactivity during or after an argument, disagreement or fight, you will not only damage your brain, but you will lose relationship over the long haul.
Check this quote out from the International Business Times
"Exposure to frequent conflicts between parents can impair brain development in children and place them at a greater risk of several mental health issues, researchers reveal."
It's just true now.
It's what a lot of psychologists thought, but now we have the facts.
Or how about this from Couples Attachment Expert Stan Tatkin,
"Insecurity and insecure attachment negatively affect brain performance. Development can be slowed down because the brain is using most of its resources to manage being in survival mode instead of being free to move toward evolution, growth, and complexity."
Yikes!
I wish there was a way to make conflict resolution a required part of the classroom in schools everywhere (this will happen soon, stay tuned). We'd thrive instead of survive...
But since it’s not being taught in schools and you never learned it in schools, and because no couple can avoid conflict successfully over time, I invite you to learn with me, right here, right now.
Come to “Relationship School” right now and learn the most vital skill that all successful couples understand:
Conflict.
If I had to choose only one skill, out of the countless I know, to help couples make it long term learning “how to fight well” is the one I'd choose.
In my 2 decades of experience with families and couples, this was the missing skill I observe every single time because it's what had families and parents dragging their kids into forced treatment where I worked back in the day. The unwillingness or inability to do conflict well was the determining failure factor of every single family I knew. Above addiction, above mental illness, and far above anything else.
Later on in my career, same thing...The inability or unwillingness to do conflict was the only reason individuals and couples came in to see me when I was a licensed psychotherapist for almost ten years.
So...
Don’t be a crippled couple when it comes to having a thriving partnership.
Don't be an unprepared individual when you get in your next relationship.
Don’t let your inability or unwillingness ruin your awesome partnership.
Don’t let your fight/flight/freeze response drive your partner away…
You can do this.
Embracing conflict will make a you stronger and more confident person and couple.
Learning how to fight well and deal with your inevitable upset will
You will be sought out by friends, family members, and co-workers as they flail along in disagreements and distance. You will be THE person that can stop drop and deal.
Or, did you want to put this off until you are in a relationship crisis again?
If you want to go for it, I applaud your efforts for making it this far in your life and this far to reach this page. It means you are pretty damn serious about learning this one for good.
Because this is like riding a bike...
...once you get it, you've got it for the rest of your life.
And, since the bumps in the road will always be there in your interpersonal relationships, you can rest assured knowing you have the powertools to deal with any challenge that comes into your relationship life.
This weekend goes beyond arguments and deals with the heart of our unrest with the tension between you and others.
If you want to not only learn how to achieve a win-win resolution all the time, but also how to be a resilient warrior when you have ANY interpersonal challenge with family, friends or co-workers, then this Intensive holds the keys to your new kingdom to a much more empowered future.
See you in there!
Big respect,
Jayson
September 29th - October 1st
in Beautiful Boulder, Colorado
2.5 days you can't afford to miss if you want to go to the next level
in your intimate partnerships.
My experience as a student and apprentice in the Relationship School® has been life-changing. The teachings that Jayson offers up have really expanded my knowledge. I love the live webinars and the content that he brings and the way he delivers it. Even more important to me is the strong community of other students with whom I practice the skills and who help keep me accountable. The tools that I have learned have helped me to step more into my power in my relationships. They are practical and easy to digest and integrate into my life. I feel now a greater sense of connection to myself and others than I ever have before because I have learned how to step more into my own authentic expression without sacrificing connection. I wish I had learned these skills earlier since I am experiencing such growth and expansion in my life and in my capacity as a human. I am so excited about the mission of the Relationship School® to teach people the class they never had in school. In fact, I’m excited to say that through my involvement in the school, I have changed my career path and I am now embarking on a path as a transformational life and relationship coach. Thank you Jayson Gaddis. I am truly grateful.
Julie Gillaspie Relationship School® Apprentice
I'm ready to take my relationships to the next level!
Registration closes September 10
Get in Now!
Here's what you'll get when you invest in the weekend intensive:
- The 4 Pillars to Create A Safe, Sexy, Successful Long-Term Partnership
- The 5 step Listening process to have ANYONE feel understood by you
- Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries
- Deep community that cares about having the very best relationships
- How to guarantee success in long-term relationships
- Practice, practice, practice (which is what will get you a big result)
And, all of this:
- 2.5 Days with Jayson Gaddis (and likely his wife) in beautiful Boulder Colorado, personally guiding you
- Silly, fun, edgy, and intense exercises to expand your comfort zone
- A sense of belonging in a progressive, growth-development oriented tribe of relational warriors
- A serious boost in confidence and self-worth as your slowly begin to "get" the skills in your cells
In This Live Weekend You Will Learn:
- The only context that creates win-win indestructible partnerships
- What is a "secure homebase" and what's required to establish and keep it strong
- How to create a safe container so you can handle any fight, conflict, or disagreement
- How to speak in a way that honors them while getting your needs met
- The master tool that will help you communicate effectively so you can get exactly what you want
- How to identify the core issue between you and your partner
- Why boundaries matter and an experiential understanding of how to set them (This one is fun!)
- How to take any conversation deeper
- How to listen so they feel understood, every time
Who This Live Weekend IS For?
Singles
With this class you are not only more attractive to your future mate, you are able and willing to handle any challenge that comes your way. So come prepare yourself for the dream relationship.
Dating
You're not yet married, and may never be, but you get that arguing well is crucial to your relationship success and fulfillment, no matter how long you stay with this person.
Married
You completely understand by now that if you want to go the distance, you MUST get in the driver's seat of your reactivity or your marriage won't last, period. Get the win-win program down for life.
Who This Live Weekend Is NOT For?
Blamers
We all blame, but if you feel attached to your partner being "wrong" then I can't help you. If you are open to seeing your part, and working on it, then we're in business.
Complainers
If you struggle like the rest of us in partnership, no problem. But if you complain and whine about it, without finding the very best solutions to help you take full responsibility, we won't get along very well.
Band-Aid Seekers
If you want the pain to just magically disappear, or you want someone to make it all go away with no effort on your part, I can't help. But if you want to "earn" a great relationship, let's do this.
Your Lead Guide For The Weekend
About Jayson Gaddis
Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School® is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do romantic relationships.” He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s married to his amazing wife of 10 years and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.
Plus, Post-Event Integration. . .
After the weekend you will be invited into the private Relationship School Roots Community to integrate, practice, share and connect with like-hearted warriors like you.
Workshops that don't offer this step fail to help cement in the skills necessary to "stay on it" over time.
So, don't worry, your integration is taken care of, should you choose to take the next small step after the powerful weekend ends.
Real Results from Real Students
Since starting Jayson Gaddis’s Relationship School® launch this last September, I’m feeling grateful and changed. Taking the plunge into this powerful course was an important decision I’m happy I made.
With lectures and homework projects designed to spark understanding of how relationship works best, a high value of mine came into focus; the value of relationship as a path of growth. When I’m growing, I feel alive and curious. Once I realized that through connecting authentically, the more I grew, the more convinced I became that I was in the right place. Relationship as I’ve been exploring in this course, puts me on a potent path of growth. Continually coming up against my edges of fear and discomfort when in relationship and then very gradually learning to embrace these edges has developed for me a kind of muscle of relationship endurance all within the context of a secure place to be present in together.
The most impactful part of the course work came through the partner practices. Working consistently with the tools my partners and I had just learned in class; how to listen deeply, find the shared experience, share impact and even repair after a disagreement brought the techniques alive. Without this way of working, I could never have truly begun to embody this work and start taking the tools out into my life. I am grateful also, for the people I’ve been working with in the course. I feel a deep kindred warmth for them and in all our shared experiences.
The tools are making their mark as I’m embodying them with each experience in and out of practice work. I find I am more likely to speak up; with my family, my friends close and distant. And with that my relationships have become a fertile ground for growth and love. In short, this course has taught me to dare to come back into relationship, with curiosity and a sense of the possibility of connecting in a whole and fulfilled way.
Susan Clark 64, Relationship School® Apprentice
~ Daxe Schröter, Relationship School® Apprentice
ROUGH AGENDA
Thursday 9/28: Apprentices Only
- 12:00-6:00pm: APPRENTICES ONLY
Friday 9/29:
- 10:00am - 1:00pm: APPRENTICES ONLY
- 2:00pm: Registration
- 3:00pm: Opening Experience, Teaching, Practice, Q & A
- 4:30pm: Break
- 4:45pm: Teaching, Practice, Q & A
- 6:15pm:Dinner
- 4:45pm: Teaching, Practice, Q & A
- 6:00pm: Break
- 6:15pm: Teaching, Practice, Q & A
- 7:15pm:Close For The Day--Dinner
- 7:15pm:Relationship School Meet up & Dinner?
Saturday 9/30:
- 9:00am: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 10:30am: Break
- 10:45am: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 12:15pm: Lunch Break
- 1:15pm: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 2:45pm: Break
- 3:00pm: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 4:30pm: Break
- 4:45pm: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 6:00pm: Dinner Break
- 7:30-9:30pm: Evening Experience - Relationship School Students Only
Sunday 10/1:
- 9:00am: Relationship School Students Only
- 9:30am: Final Day Begins
- 9:45am: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 10:45am: Break
- 11:15pm: Small Groups- Relationship School Students Only
- 1:15pm: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 2:45pm: Break
- 3:00pm: Teaching, Practice, Q&A
- 4:30pm: Break
- 4:45pm: Review, Winding Down, Integration, Q&A, Next Steps
- 6:00pm: Close
I’m overwhelmed with gratitude considering the transformations I’ve experienced in my relationships. I love the effective tools, methods, and support that helped me embody deep confidence as a partner, coach, father, friend and beyond. I light up thinking about how growing in this way has had an exponential impact on my life and family – I can’t imagine a better investment in myself. My only regret is not “Getting this” sooner. Thank you for serving up “The course I never got in school” so powerfully. I can only imagine DPIR becoming even more powerful overtime.
Steven Srotir 44, Apprentice Relationship Coach
Learning and working with Jayson Gaddis and The Relationship School has been like an education on steroids (in the best way possible). Through study and practice I am putting some significant pieces of my own story together to see more clearly the whole picture and to gain a much broader view and expansive space for myself to live in and to be with others, in relationship. Sometimes it’s messy. Sometimes I fall down and have to get back up. And sometimes I find a new key to unlock an old door! One by one, as I step through them, it’s as if I’m taking a long-awaited walk home to myself and into connection in a way I’ve always imagined possible – not the fantasy, but in real time and real life! I feel grateful and encouraged, more confident and capable, awake and alive. Thank you, Jayson!
Jennifer Morrison Apprentice Coach, RS Mentor
~ Jennifer Morrison
I'm ready to take my relationships to the next level!
Early Bird pricing ends Sunday August 6, so get in now to get $200 off the full price.
VENUE
Hyatt Place, Boulder. Located just minutes away from downtown Boulder, this brand new hotel is in the perfect spot to visit the city effortlessly. It is ideally situated in Depot Square at Boulder Junction, soon to be the new central hub in Boulder offering trendy restaurants, local shopping experiences, and modern living. Getting around town is easy with access to eGo CarShare, Boulder B-cycle, and the RTD bus network right outside the front door.
TRAVEL
Denver International Airport (DIA)
Denver International Airport is the closest airport, approximately 50 miles southeast of Boulder.
Sky Ride Bus
The Sky Ride is the most budget friendly option and travels between DIA and Boulder every hour (between 3am – 11pm). You can get a rider pass for $11.00 (one way) at the RTD SkyRide Sales Counter at DIA, West Terminal, Level 5 (price may change). Your stop will be “14th & Walnut – the Boulder bus terminal.” From there, you many call a taxi, hotel shuttle, etc.
Shared-ride shuttles and taxis to/from DIA
There are several ground transportation options available. The Ground Transportation Information Counter is located in the central area on Level 5 of Jeppesen Terminal
Car rental options to/from DIA
Driving time between Denver International Airport (DIA) and Boulder is approximately 60 to 90 minutes. From DIA, follow Peña Boulevard (10 miles) south to I-70, and exit onto I-70 west. Follow I-70 west to I-270 west. I-270 merges into U.S. 36 west and takes you west into Boulder (about 23 miles). Get directions from DIA.
Parking and Getting Around
The Hyatt is in an urban area with limited parking. You’re encouraged to drive only if necessary and use alternative transportation if possible.
Walking
Boulder is a walking-friendly town and within easy walking distance to the Integral Center are several restaurants, Ideal Market (owned by Whole Foods), a pharmacy, a post office, and a tea/coffee shop. It’s a 12-block (approx. 15 minute) walk to Boulder’s Pearl Street Mall, hiking trails, and several good hotels.
Local Bus
The Boulder Skip Bus goes up and down Broadway, stopping at the Center every 7 – 15 minutes. Broadway is Boulder’s main north-south artery traveling to Boulder’s Pearl Street Mall, downtown area, and many hotels.
B-cycle
B-cycle is Boulder's bike sharing program which allows you to rent and return a bike from various stations around town. Unlike typical bike rental, each ride is kept short, and B-cycles are returned to their stations when not in use rather than being kept and locked up. Pick up a bike at any B-station, and return it to any station when you’re done.
Lyft and Uber are both available in Boulder.
Local Taxi Service
Boulder Yellow Cab can be reached at 303-777-7777.
LODGING - Stay Right at The Venue!
Lodging
The Hyatt Place Boulder is the where the Relationship School® live weekend will take place and they are offering a preferred rate of $199/night to attendees. To secure the group rate please click here: https://boulderpearlstreet.place.hyatt.com/en/hotel/home.html?corp_id=G-RESC
Below are a few other hotel options, with distances from Hyatt Place, Boulder.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
September 29 - October 1 at Hyatt Place, Boulder CO. (228 Junction Place)
Denver International Airport (DIA) Denver International Airport is the closest airport, approximately 50 miles southeast of Boulder.
Sky Ride Bus The Sky Ride is the most budget friendly option and travels between DIA and Boulder every hour (between 3am – 11pm). You can get a rider pass for $11.00 (one way) at the RTD SkyRide Sales Counter at DIA, West Terminal, Level 5 (price may change). Your stop will be “14th & Walnut – the Boulder bus terminal.” From there, you many call a taxi, hotel shuttle, etc.
Shared-ride shuttles and taxis to/from DIA There are severalground transportation options available. The Ground Transportation Information Counter is located in the central area on Level 5 of Jeppesen Terminal
Car rental options to/from DIA Driving time between Denver International Airport (DIA) and Boulder is approximately 60 to 90 minutes. From DIA, follow Peña Boulevard (10 miles) south to I-70, and exit onto I-70 west. Follow I-70 west to I-270 west. I-270 merges into U.S. 36 west and takes you west into Boulder (about 23 miles).
Parking and Getting Around
Hyatt Place is in an urban area with limited parking. You’re encouraged to drive only if necessary and use alternative transportation if possible.
Walking
Boulder is a walking-friendly town and within easy walking distance to Hyatt Place are several restaurants, Ideal Market (owned by Whole Foods), a pharmacy, a post office, and a tea/coffee shop. It’s a 12-block (approx. 15 minute) walk to Boulder’s Pearl Street Mall, hiking trails, and several good hotels.
Local Bus
The Boulder Skip Bus goes up and down Broadway, stopping at the Center every 7 – 15 minutes. Broadway is Boulder’s main north-south artery traveling to Boulder’s Pearl Street Mall, downtown area, and many hotels.
B-cycle
B-cycle is Boulder's bike sharing program which allows you to rent and return a bike from various stations around town.Unlike typical bike rental, each ride is kept short, and B-cycles are returned to their stations when not in use rather than being kept and locked up. Pick up a bike at any B-station, and return it to any station when you’re done.
Lyft and Uber are both available in Boulder.
Local Taxi Service
Boulder Yellow Cab can be reached at 303-777-7777.
Below are a few hotel options, with distances from Hyatt Place, Boulder. For additional hotel details, please contact the hotel. More area hotel options are available here.
The Hyatt Place Boulder is the where the Relationship School® live weekend will take place and they are offering a preferred rate of $199/night to attendees. To secure the group rate please click here: https://boulderpearlstreet.place.hyatt.com/en/hotel/home.html?corp_id=G-RESC
5 – 7 minute drive or bus ride, 25 – 30 minute walk
7 – 10 minute drive or bus ride, a little too far to walk
7 – 10 minute drive or bus ride, a little too far to walk
5-minute drive or bus ride, 10-minute walk
5 – 7 minute drive or bus ride, 25 – 30 minute walk
Airbnb is is a website allowing anyone from private residents to commercial properties to rent out their extra space. The site allows for user reviews, verification, and secure online transactions. Listings include vacation rentals, private rooms, entire apartments, bed and breakfasts and many other traditional and non-traditional accommodations.
Checkout out the Facebook Group. Shared rides, lodging, or meet-ups, can be planned there with fellow community members.
Jayson will combine teaching with breakout sessions where you will be able to practice and integrate the tools. There will be time allotted for asking questions. Additional details will be emailed to you before the event.
There will be a variety of herbal tea and hot water available all day. You are welcome to bring water bottles and snacks into the meeting space. There will be breaks throughout the day as well as an extended break for lunch. There are many restaurants within walking distance of the Hyatt Place a Wholefoods next door.
Join Us And Get The Keys To Creating Your Indestructible Partnership And Watch Your Life Fulfillment Expand & Increase.
Don't wait. Get your foundation set in place forever so when things inevitably get hard and challenge comes, you will meet and clear the charges as they arise, and get empowered and stronger through whatever comes your way.
We'll see you here in Boulder Colorado very soon!
Deep thanks,
Jayson