Tool: How To Challenge Your Friends (Part 1)
June, 1 2016

In this call we dive into a very important discussion on how to challenge our friends and our partners. Jayson goes over a 10 step process on learning the skills to bring challenge and how to invite our friends and partners into this new paradigm of relating where ultimately we are learning to bring our love.

• Intro: Why are we having this conversation? [2:54]
• Why we avoid challenge and what it really means to love someone [5:29]
• Step zero - one: Setting context [7:57]
• Jayson’s experience with bringing challenge in the past & personal experience with a friend [9:33]
• Questions to ask when setting context [14:40]
• Step two - five: Going first, invite challenge, hold your seat, thanks and validation [15:21]
• Step six - ten: Asking questions, getting their world, sharing impact, change over [20:24]
• Jayson’s personal example of bringing challenge and how to own projection & shaming [24:18]

Tool: Warriorship - Internal & External
March 23, 2016

In this call Jayson reminds the community of the context for being in the community, the importance of stepping into warriorship on the ‘Relationship As a Path’ journey and how you can do this by exploring your internal and external resources.

• NESTR meditation and how to find your R (resource) both internal and external [0:43]
• Working with a challenging experience using our resource [3:18]
• The importance of resource in reference to warriorship [4:50]
• Where Jayson learnt the importance of relaxing into an experience [6:43]
• Why our relationship pain is helping us grow [9:50]
• Relationship as the primary vehicle for growth [12:06]
• Jayson approach to relaxing into challenge [13:32]
• A supportive reminder and encouragement to stay in warriorship [14:45]

Tool -  Leave (Old) Friendships
December 02, 2016

In this call we learn how to know when it’s time to move on from a friendship. Jayson gives personal examples of how he left old friendships in the past and different approaches to take that ultimately lead to valuing yourself more.  

• You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with [0:40]
• Reason one in spotting when it’s time to move on [2:32]
• Reason two in spotting when it’s time to move on [4:22]
• Reason three in spotting when it’s time to move on [5:41]
• Jayson’s history in leaving friendships [6:42]
• Being okay with leaving a friendship [11:22]
• Examples of different approaches to leaving friendships [12:19]
• The importance of staying true to yourself and finding your way [14:54]
• The bigger perspective [16:25]

Toolkit: Shame & Guilt
September 24, 2015

In this call we explore the world of shame and guilt and how and what they are trying to teach us. We learn Jayson’s powerful perspective on both and how this perspective can help heal and support you.

• Feeling the experience of shame and guilt in our bodies [0:14]
• The typical definition of shame and Jayson’s perspective [2:37]
• Seeing how a shameful experience helped you  [5:41]
• Jayson’s example of a past shameful experience and how it helped him [8:16]
• Guilt [10:02]
• The difference and similarities between shame and guilt [11:13]
• Seeing how guilt is helping you [12:36]
• What people typically do when they experience shame & guilt [14:23]
• Shame & guilt as healing allies [16:12]
• The benefits to Sarah’s experience with shame [17:53]

Tool: Context

In this call Jayson reminds us what the number one tool is above any other tool - context. We learn Jayson’s definition of context, why context is the number one tool to get first, how it sets you up for relationship success and the additional purpose of relationship after you adopt the context.

• Why is context the number one overarching tool? [1:12]
• What is the context Jayson is teaching and what view most people are stuck in [2:22]
• Busting the old fantasies view on relationship [3:31]
• How does this context set your relationship up for success [4:36]
• The next two key tools to relationship success [5:57]
• The idea that an ‘abusive’ relationship is a point of growth with this context [7:15]
• An additional purpose of relationship - a secure home base [8:25]

Tool: Assessing Your Partner's Readiness

In this call we dive into the conversation about how to assess our partner and their level of readiness or willingness to do the work in the relationship. Jayson gives helpful scenarios and examples of how to approach your partner using the technique ‘Motivational Interviewing’.

• What is ‘motivational interviewing’? [0:50]
• Why it’s important to pay attention if a partner doesn’t want to do the work [3:20]
• Jayson’s example of using motivational interviewing as a tool to assess a couple's readiness  [4:59]
• Examples of dialogue to bring motivational interviewing to your partner [8:19]
• Diving deeper into why we are using motivational interviewing [11:00]
• Jayson’s example of using ‘motivational interviewing’ when dealing with addiction [12:17]
• How congruency is the core aspect of trusting another person [14:51]
• Why forcing someone to do the work, won’t ever work [16:16]
• The rule of thumb of ‘MOVO’ (motivational interviewing) and it’s link to our POS [17:42]

Tool: Projection & Judgment

In this call we tease apart projection and judgement using Jayson’s perspectives, examples and
definitions to find out what’s really going on. We learn how to work with projection and judgement in an empowered way and how they can be useful in your relationships.   

• Common definitions and examples of projection [0:58]
• The power of owning your projections and a useful view to adapt [3:25]
• Examples of projecting in your relationships [5:44]
• Another useful example of how to notice if you are projecting [8:12]
• Distinguishing what you are projecting [9:44]
• How do we deal with projections in our relationships? [10:23]
• Jayson’s examples how to project in a skilful way [11:59]
• The difference between judgement and projection [14:50]
• Judgement and discernment [16:00]
• The warrior view to take on with judgement [17:29]