MEET ME

I am a deep man. 

I’m a husband. A Dad. A student. A  teacher. A speaker. An author. A human behavior nerd. I’m sensitive. I’m empathic. 

I’ve been bullied and bullied back. I’ve won sports competitions, come in 2nd place, and lost most. I’ve made a ski movie. I’ve dislocated both shoulders more than 40 times each and had surgery on both. I love animals. I’ve seen extreme trauma and worked through it. I’ve worked at two different mental health centers. I’ve worked with victims of rape, incest, domestic violence, and abuse. I’ve helped homeless people, parents, celebrities, and high-powered CEOs. I’ve been to AA meetings and walked out of them. I’ve helped people who were so psychotic they were strapped to a gurney against their will. I was an emergency psychiatric services crisis worker for 3 years. I’ve hospitalized many people and diagnosed even more. I’ve worked inpatient and outpatient treatment programs. I’m a master group facilitator. I was a licensed professional counselor in Colorado, then I let my license go and became a coach and an entrepreneur. I ran a developmental ski team with 5-10 year olds for years. I managed an art studio. I was president of my college fraternity. I’ve shaken hands with the governor during drug free week and a year later built a bong with PVC piping in my dorm room.  I like grinding uphill on my mountain bike and passing everyone on the trail. I’ve lost hundreds of thousands of dollars. I’ve started 3.5 businesses and 2.5 of them failed.  I’ve been hated by countless people. I’ve soloed huge rock faces with no ropes or gear including Half Dome in Yosemite. I’m an avid birdwatcher. I’ve fallen on the ground in dehydration miles away from help. I’ve spent the night in the wilderness with no tent or sleeping bag. I’ve slept over 200 days on the earth in one year. I’ve climbed many of the classic traditional climbing routes in many states. I’ve lived out of my car. When I had to wear a coat and tie for work, I wore birkenstalks in opposition, and was later reprimanded for it.  I’ve been thrown in jail in central america. I’ve been held at gun piont in Mexico. I’ve hitch-hiked across Alaska and Guatemala. I’ve swam naked in the ocean with strangers. I’ve nearly drown in Portugal. I’ve felt immense shame around my sexuality. I’ve been in several fights in college. I’ve been knocked unconscious by a group of 10 men. I’ve been kicked out of bars by the Japanese mafia and the Columbian mafia. I was almost kicked out of college freshman year for smoking pot in the door rooms and plagerizing my first term paper. I’ve led dozens of wilderness rites of passage trips, built sweat lodges, and slept on top of countless mountains. I’ve done over 35 ayahuasca ceremonies, and countless psychedelic sessions. I’ve cut dozens of good people out of my life. I’ve burned bridges and mended some. I’ve been a part time stay at home father, meeting the demands of two young kids for years. I swore I would never get married or have kids and now I love being married and my family is my greatest masterpiece I’ve ever created (and it was co-created of course). I love being a dad more than anything in the world.

I’ve done some stupid things in my life. I’ve made some really bad decisions, and I’ve failed many times. I’ve made some incredibly wise choices too, like getting married and having kids and starting a school devoted to helping humans feel more empowered and fulfilled relationally. 

I study myself and my fellow humans for a living. It’s my happy place. I like to go places others don’t want to go. I like going “off trail” into the unexamined. I loathe small talk. I long for depth, truth, meaning. 

They say ignorance is bliss. I say ignorance is a prison. And people stay in their prison because it’s known territory and they can’t see otherwise. When you want to break out of the prison you are in, and you are willing to see all of you, even if it scares you, let’s have a conversation. The human journey is extraordinary should you choose to step into yours. If you are willing to open that door and meet your demons, fears, hopes, and dreams with open arms, your consciousness will expand. 

I’m very good at seeing through the bullshit into the center of who you are. I want that. The world wants that. And, I think you want that. Because when you make contact with the real you it’s the ultimate drug, the deep human that is in there. When you access that, you will have arrived and can start living. You will never fall asleep again and there is no going back from whence you came. 

I yearn to know what your soul longs for. I want to know what you really think about inside that skull of yours. I want to know your worst fears, biggest mistakes, most hurtful pain points, and secret goals you are too afraid to tell others, and I want to turn all of that mess into a masterful piece of art called your life.