Got A Cheating Spouse? Avoid Being Cheated On Again By Doing This

So, why in God’s name do people cheat? What is their problem? Are they just mean, cruel narcissists?

Nope.

Yeah, but aren’t they just bad people?

Wrong again.

Cheating is normal human behavior when a person doesn’t know how to do relationship (which is most people)

Cheating is what we human beings do when we purchase a fantasy about relationship and then expect it to feel good all the time. When the relationship gets hard, the doorway to “cheat” opens…because we are suckers for avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.

Contrary to popular belief, cheating is not for losers, and cheating isn’t done by sociopaths that are out to get you.

Cheating is done by normal people that don’t know how to articulate and express their frustrations with their current relationship and are too scared to be honest about it.

Cheating is a great release for you if you are not able, for whatever reason, to sit in the hot fire of your experience when the relationship gets uncomfortable.

In other words, you seek relief from pain. Understandable since pretty much everyone is carrying around some pain. If you have cheated, you saw more advantages to cheating than you did to not cheating, so you behaved that way. 

Little do you know, that like wack-a-mole, you are exchanging one set of problems for another set of problems.

In other words, you can run from your relationship problems, but you can’t hide.

Okay fine, but what about the person who gets cheated on? What’s going on with you if you are on the receiving end?

Victims of cheating are, 9 times out of 10 in my experience, people who feel bad about themselves. In other words, cheating happens most often to you when you don’t value or respect yourself.

Am I blaming the victim here? No, I’m challenging the victim in you to take responsibility, which is the only way to get empowered.

So, want to get cheated on? Don’t respect or value yourself and don’t take responsibility for your part in your relationship problems. 

You could argue with me here. Instead of being open to this perspective, you will deny this truth and claim that “I love myself completely, I don’t know what you are talking about! He/She is just a mean jerk for cheating on me.”

Not so fast.

If you point the finger at him or her, it keeps you in the victim seat. Is that where you want to stay stuck?

If you truly respect who you are, you wouldn’t be paired with a person who cheats on you. You’d have a different set of relationship challenges.

By getting cheated on, you are being asked to value yourself.

So, if you are a cheater, instead of cheating on someone, face your relationship problems and the part of you that is addicted to the dopamine rush of instant gratification. Or, give yourself permission to be polyamorous for a while and stop pretending that you can do monogamy.

And, for the folks who got cheated on…Instead of complaining about being cheated on, see and own your part–that you value yourself only to the degree that they value you. Next, see how you being cheated on is your opportunity to value yourself way more than you already do.

Got a resentment about someone cheating on you? Clear it here.

Also, stay tuned for an upcoming course on how to get over an affair in 30 days or less. Seriously. There’s no need to allow a painful affair or breach of trust ruin your life or continue to cause you pain.