Most of the time, when we fight with a partner, we “bicker” or go in circles because we are missing what the fight is really about. In this episode we examine the 3 things people fight about most. It will be essential to listen to this so you know what the deeper layer of your fights are really about. Why does this matter? So you can get to the real issue and resolve it.
SHOWNOTES:
- The 3 types of fights [6:40]
- Type 1: Security fight – “I don’t feel safe” [7:40]
- Type 2: Past resentments – Stuff you’ve never dealt with. [11:00]
- Type 3: Dealing with small, everyday stuff [14:00]
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- Fight, Flight, Freeze – The 3 styles of dealing with conflict [24:40]
ACTION STEP:
Next time you’re fighting with your partner, remember to ask yourselves: “What are we really fighting about?”
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MicheleneSvetlik
October 26, 2016This stuff has been so very helpful for me to see clearly, find my self worth, face my fears and stand for a healthy marriage! Now ive got tools. Next get him in the game!
[…] Get real. Adding on from the previous step. Go deeper. Get to the real reason you think you are fighting. Now you are ready to go back to your partner and speak to them in a calm, rational voice and […]
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